This week’s “Dear Susan” comes from someone who recently contacted me about joining my bootcamp.
She has a particular situation at home that is preventing her from having the body she desires.
I thought that her situation is probably not unusual and that you might be able to benefit from my answer to her……
“…..I prefer non-processed, organic foods, and if I could eat salad or soup (or crackers and cheese) for dinner every night I’d be happy, but my family is another story. My daughter and husband like their nightly ice cream snack and after a glass of wine, I do too – need I say more? I fantasize about being a healthy, slim person who grows and eats her own vegetables and plucks the fresh eggs out from under her own chickens every morning, after a thoroughly enjoyable workout. In reality, I am an overworked wife and mom who grabs a Dunkin Donuts ham, egg, and cheese every morning after hitting the snooze button 3 times and breaking into a sweat, IN THE SHOWER.
I’m too young to feel this old.”
There are a few issues I would like to address here:
First, one of the major factors in successful goal achievement is having the support behind you to help keep you on track.
This could range from anyone from a spouse or other family member, friend, coach, and/or online support community.
This rule is especially true when you are trying to lose weight.
I personally would never be able to survive sitting and watching my husband and daughter eat big bowls of ice cream without indulging myself. How could I?
So, since you are the woman and the boss of the family, here are a few options:
- You stop buying ice cream all together and find a healthier dessert.
- You try a lighter version of the ice cream they like.
- You limit the days of the week the family can indulge.
- You tell them you can only indulge if they do _____. i.e. exercise 30 minutes that day.
- You explain to your family what your goals are and how important their support is to your success (you might have to spell out exactly what they can do to be supportive of you, such as stop eating like crap all the time).
Using one or more of these tactics will make it easier for you in the long run.
Also, if you really try everything and just can’t get the support you need from home, you have to look elsewhere for the support, you just have to.
Friends, workout partners, and co-workers make for great support. In fact, chances are some of them are in the exact same boat as you are. Take advantage and work together to support each other.
If you need to go a step further, find a weight loss coach and an online support community with like minded people.
Obviously, a Coach is there to educate and motivate you. Can’t go wrong there, but if money is an issue you can get all the support you need online, many times for free.
Many weight loss communities have community forums where you can become a member. In the forums you can ask questions, get to know other people, address your challenges, and share best practices, and best of all, hold you accountable.
Start building your social support community today.
The second thing I want to address is the fact that she fantasizes about exactly who she wants to be – healthy and slim.
Despite the fact she is doing some things right now that may be leading to being overweight and unhealthy, I love the fact that she fantasize about being a healthier version of herrself. That’s truly half the battle. We can’t change if we don’t want to, even if we know we need to.
So, before you can really change a bad habit, you have to admit you have one and truly want to change it.
I promise your fat loss efforts will be a ton easier with social support and a true desire to become a better version of yourself.
Become a better you today.
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Your Friend & Coach,
Susan Campbell, MS, CSCS